The second question John and I get asked the most is, “Do you ever work?” Of course this question is usually a joke, but sometimes people are like, “But seriously, do you?” The answer is a little complicated. For me in particular, the answer has changed many times over the years. Without going into too many boring details, I have had a job on and off over the years, but John (thankfully) has consistently had a job to support us. I could whine and complain about how it’s hard to get a job in the marketing or public relations field in a new city, but we’ve been really lucky and I’m thankful for all of the experiences we’ve had!
“Everybody is different. Everybody has different styles. Just do it the best way you know how.” – Vince Carter
With all of that being said, we totally get that it’s hard to find the time (or money) to go do things. We’ve had times when we only had one day a week off together because of our work schedules. We’ve had times when we only had one income. Despite all of that we always make the time to do new things. I think that’s what the “Do you ever work?” question is really about: how we find the time to do the things that we do.
“My favorite thing is to go where I’ve never been.” – Diane Arbus
Take advantage of your weekends. Let me start this with saying that I know that not everyone’s situation is the same. John and I are at a time in our lives personally where we don’t have a lot of responsibilities (like kids or a house) to take care of, so that gives us a lot more flexibility. But even still, I know that it can be hard to try and come up with something to do and then actually do it. We use Google Docs or the Notes app on our iPhones to keep a list of day trip ideas within 2 hours of our current location. This plan has worked great for us everywhere we have lived. For example, on Monday we may start talking about things we could do that coming Saturday, so we look back at our list of ideas instead of having to come up with something totally new. If you don’t like or use Google Docs then I would suggest getting an all in one organizer. That way you can keep your list with you and also be able to plan ahead! It would also be fun to get a small white board and use it as your idea inspiration spot. I love lists and staying organized, so I would probably do all of these!
“Because in the end, you won’t remember the time you spent working in the office or mowing your lawn. Climb that goddamn mountain.” – Jack Kerouac
Weekend trips are a fun and easy way to take a mini vacation. It’s totally possible to leave Friday after work, go somewhere new, and get back on Sunday night. Then you don’t have to take off of work! John and I did this all the time when we lived in Denver because there were so many places close to us. Go spend the night in a city a few hours away from you and explore! We also always try to take advantage of holiday weekends when we have an extra day off. A good tip is to go somewhere not as popular on holiday weekends so it won’t be so crowded. When we went to South Dakota it was Memorial Day Weekend and there was barely anyone there!
“You don’t remember people you love by the wise things they say but the silly things they do.” – Howard Jacobson
Really the best piece of advice I can give you for finding the time to do more things would be to just make up your mind and actually GO. Stop overthinking things and just book the trip. Don’t hit the snooze button – get up and go do that thing you’ve been wanting to do. It’s not always about going somewhere expensive or going somewhere for a long time. It’s just about getting out, getting on the road and doing it. As they say, it’s better to see something once than to hear about it a thousand times. I hope this post encourages you to take advantage of your time and see what you can do differently to find fun! If you have any tips for finding the time to do new things, please share with everyone in the comments!